New Year…Get Kid’s Things Organized!

No time to blog over the weekend….so I am bringing back an oldie but a goodie….an interview from last January from local home organization expert and mom on how to keep your kids things organized all year long. Hopefully some of her tips will help you this year!

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“You can always be organized but with children, you’re not always going to be neat,” says local mom & home organization expert Rachel Strisik.

Can I hear the “RIGHT ONs” bouncing across the beltway right now?

What? What is that I hear you saying? Say it again? Should we shout it from the rooftops? Can I remind myself of this mantra when I get into my definitely not neat car or open one of my closet doors and duck for fear of what might just come tumbling out at me?

Rachel on NBC4 with Angie Goff

What about when I cringe and peer into the playroom?

Come to think of it, maybe I will make a theme of blaming my shortcomings on my children in 2012 because even though I am awesome, I fall short in a few areas. Husbands are part of the problem of things not being…ahem…neat (need I remind you of the dis-mantled crib that remained in my upstairs hallway for a few months earlier this fall?).

As we know,  2012 is the year of I am Awesome and Moi Loves Moi. Part of being awesome is being organized. So, who best to talk to about this problem than Rachel Strisik, home organizer extraordinare.

Rachel started her home organizing business back in 2005  before her twin girls were born. Along the way, she also spent 2.5 years working for Stacy London, who many of us know from What Not to Wear. Bottom line – if you need some organization in your life – then this is the local area mom to call. We had the chance to talk in late December and I have lived by her words since we last spoke.

Rachel pointed out that holidays and birthdays are the perfect time to weed through playrooms and make room for the new stuff. With her own twin girls, who turn four this month, she’s made a regular habit of looking through what they already have and starting a donate pile, and now her girls participate in this activity. Typically I am skeptical of any sort of “involve the kids in cleaning” tips because they come saddled with “They will love it” advice, and I used to wonder if that was a euphemism for “Really, you’re going to just give yourself another reason to listen to your kids whine while you try to do something productive.” But, surprisingly, I have found that my 6-year-old truly enjoys participating in the “donation pile” cleaning activity and we make up stories about the younger kids who might use this certain toy and what they’ll be like. Plus, we all know from Toy Story that no toy is happy until it has a child to play with it, and so it’s fun to remind her of that as we dust off the toys she’s outgrown and I remind her why she actually can part with it.

Another reason that cleaning out toys is important is this: Rachel reminded me of the impact of visual clutter on both kids and adults. A chaotic cluttered room is not peaceful, or even something anyone wants to set foot in. Kind of like my car. A common solution to tackling the visual clutter is to rotate toys. Frankly I’ve always known this is a good idea but I just don’t see myself doing it. Rachel’s advice is to actually schedule time on your calendar, like a doctor’s appointment, and then you have no excuse – you’ve set aside that date and time to approach the clutter, rotate it out and leave only the toys they actually play with in sight. And it is true that when they eventually see a toy again that they haven’t seen in a while, they are going to play with it, and eagerly. I really appreciated the tip of scheduling the time in your calendar.

Finally the dreaded topic of kids art work came up. Rachel raised the issue of taking pictures of the kids artwork and loading them into a Snapfish album. I’m sure like moi, you’ve heard this approach several times and if you are anything like moi, you are apt to dismiss it as just high maintenance and unrealistic.  But then Rachel made two points that really struck a chord with me. First, she said that what she advises clients to do is write down what the child said about that piece of artwork and include that statement in the Snapfish album, so when they are older and looking back on it, not only can they see what they made but they can read what they thought about it. I loved that idea. And then she said this – we all need to be “conscious of what we are saving because we are passing it along to our children.”

And she is totally right. I myself have boxes of  my old cherished art work from my youth, hogging up prime storage space in my basement, that my mother eagerly passed on to me. Do I ever look at it? No. Can I bear with tossing it out? No. Do I have a problem? Maybe. So do I need to repeat the cycle and pass it along to my girls? Probably not.

Rachel was on NBC4 with Angie Goff on Saturday discussing kids room organization tips in-depth – so if you want specific advice on containers and storing and organizing toys, check out the link to her fabulous interview.

In the  mean time, happy organizing! And tell me – do you rotate toys out or have you ever done a photo album just of the kids artwork?

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Toilet Paper Tail: How Life’s Most Embarrassing Moment Prepared Me for Motherhood

Everyone has an embarrassing story. Some embarrassing stories make you giggle and compel you to then share how something similar happened to you. Some are awkward because you think the person is an idiot and you actually don’t think the story is funny. Some make you uncomfortable.

I found this card. And yet my experience was a hybrid of each of these. #ToiletPaperTail

Mine – mine does all of the above. Except maybe the part where something similar happened to you.

The only thing going for me is mine happened before social media. Waaaayyyy back in 1997. When I was 22 years old. Had this story happened sometime more recently, it would have gone viral. My ass would be all over YouTube.

Literally.

#ToiletPaperTail would have lit up Twitter as I sauntered down K Street, at lunch time, totally oblivious.

And yet – though I will never forget this story – I realize now that surviving this story prepared me well for parenthood. Because what is parenthood on some days other than hitting rock bottom and realizing that the best way through it is with a laugh and accepting the only place you can go from here – is up?

So what happened?

It was a lovely fall day in 1997. I had my super new job working for a public relations firm at 18th and K Street. I thought I was a BAD ASS. I had my college degree, I had a job in the field I wanted to be in, I was FANCY.

Fabulous and Fancy.

That particular day, the CEO of the entire company worldwide was in our office. So what does a gal do but wear her best suit.
Really, I basically had one suit because I could afford nothing else and my parents bought it for me to interview for jobs. It was a grey wool JCrew skirt suit. I was totally Mary Tyler Moore when I wore it – I was going to make it after all!

Being 22-years-old and the lowest man on the totem pole, I did lots of menial things, like fax stuff (remember that?) and making copies (remember CC Mail?) and answering phones. Recall: I was fancy.

So the CEO of the DC office asked me to deliver something quickly — it was very important — and just had to be dropped off on Connecticut Avenue but it was VERY important.

Oh wow. And important job for the CEO!!! But first, I had to pee.  So off I went in my fancy skirt suit to the restrooms to pee really quickly before I hurried this envelope down K Street…at LUNCH TIME….to Connecticut Avenue.

As I rounded the corners from the restroom, the DC office CEO and the global CEO were also standing at the elevator banks. It quickly turned awkward. I wasn’t sure why. They suddenly had shifty eyes and wouldn’t really look at me. An elevator opened and they didn’t get on, so I hurried on because I had this VERY IMPORTANT DELIVERY for both of them. I was going to show them how reliable I was and amazing, of course.

Just before the doors shut, the DC CEO leaned in and awkwardly said “You have toilet paper coming from your skirt.”

Camera cue to me turning BRIGHT RED and the doors coming to a complete shut.

No wonder the other two didn’t get on the elevator with me. You know, the two heads of the COMPANY. No wonder they kept their eyes glued to the floor.

Suddenly I realized, I didn’t just have toilet paper coming from my skirt, I had my entire skirt TUCKED into my tights, then I had toilet paper coming from my ass and down the back of my legs like a tail – so if I were walking towards you, it would look like I had a toilet paper tail hanging between my knees.

A TOILET PAPER TAIL

AN EXPOSED ASS

In front of two CEOs.

Who thought I was just taking a huge poop in the bathroom.

I was 22-years-old.

Was this rock bottom?

And how, exactly, did this happen? I only had to pee. Why was so much toilet paper involved? I still don’t know the answer to that particular question. One of life’s great mysteries, I suppose.

And so, I rearranged myself and untucked my skirt from my tights and removed my new found accessory: the toilet paper tail. And I walked down K Street, during lunch, on a busy October day, so incredibly grateful that I didn’t have a toilet paper tail. And I wondered how could I go on? How could I face the CEO again? How could I face the global CEO? Surely he’d never forget moi.

Which was not exactly the impression I had in mind as I pranced to the elevator doors a few minutes before. Was I actually going to make it, after all?

And what was my next move? We were a very congenial, goofy office. I was a PR maven, right? So did I get in front of the story and tell my co-workers so they wouldn’t hear it from others first and then start gossiping about me? Recall: this went down at the elevator banks – anyone could have been standing there. Odds were the mortified CEOs would never tell anyone else. But do we think they bust out laughing when my elevator door closed?

Looking back now, I am sure they did. Out loud. Uproarious laughter. Wouldn’t you?

Oh I totally would.

But do I get in front of it or do I hope it never gets out, pretend it never happened, oh, and never make eye contact with our CEO ever again?

Do I just never go back?

It was a troublesome walk to make that delivery that day. And it all started out so promising.

So what did I learn from this humbling moment?

To laugh at myself, that nothing ever goes as planned, that youngsters always use too much toilet paper and I need to stop griping at my kids about it and for God’s sake, to check your ass before you leave the bathroom when you are wearing a skirt.

It prepared me well for parenthood. I know that I can come back from rock bottom and public humiliation.

Oh, and I got in front of the story and confessed to my co-workers, so we all could laugh together about it.

And laugh they did.

Got an embarrassing story like mine? Did it prepare you for parenthood? “Like” moi on Facebook and I’ll tell you more hilarious stories.

 

Moms & Time: Good Enough is the New Perfect

I am re-posting the below piece that I first published in March 2012. Sure, the news survey is almost a year old but the idea is still the same and fits nicely into our 2013 commitment to finding more Moi-Time because it’s a reminder that we need to just relax and putter….

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Earlier this week, Real Simple magazine and the Families and Work Institute  (FWI) issued the results of a new survey they conducted on moms and time. Here’s the topline results:

  • At least 50% of women say they don’t have enough free time.
  • 60% feel guilty spending what little time they do have on themselves.
  • Interestingly 68% claim that work doesn’t interfere with their personal lives.

Ellen Galinsky, president of the FWI, this week during a panel discussing the survey results, said “Its like the new clean plate club. In addition to working and taking care of the kids, women feel they can’t relax until all the household chores are complete. While the average husband’s to-do list encompasses two main jobs: repairs and yard work, the average wife’s list contains at least eleven items from cooking, to cleaning, to managing household finances. “Your husband isn’t going to say, ‘You look really busy, you should have some free time,'” adds Galinsky.Wait – your husband didn’t do this?

Hmm…so of course, back in reality-land, as I read about this new survey, I started wondering what 11 items are on my to do list.

Might it be comprised of such things as, oh I don’t know, putting away summer clothes that barely fit my 6-year-old at the end of last summer?

How about those random stray Halloween and Christmas decorations and books I keep finding that never got put away properly in October and January?

My insanely terrorized closets?

Is my list just 11 items long? I doubt it.

But look, this is the year of Moi Loves Moi. We are awesome. Do we really need to subscribe to this ideal of perfection? Ultimately, that is the unspoken expectation in all of these surveys: that as mothers, we hold such a high standard that we expect perfection, and then are stressed out because we don’t have enough free time.

I say enough of it. It isn’t realistic and it’s a waste of precious emotional energy that is better spent elsewhere. I’m good with good enough, it’s a central tenet of Moi Loves Moi. Until I plan to host an open house to sell my current house, what difference does the inside of my closets make?

None. It makes no difference. And what delights a three-year-old more than finding a small stuffed pumpkin in the playroom in March? See, I do it for the children.

Have I organized my Kindergartener’s artwork dating back to when she was in the 2s room in preschool, into the new nifty organizers she got for Christmas?

Mais non!

Does this keep me up at night?

Of course not.

Do I think in a million years, if wild horses were dragging me by my toes, my husband would take the initiative to get these things done?

I am not on crack.

But does this bother me? No.

Look, coming home to this would be amazing but it’s not likely to happen, at least chez moi:

Don’t hold your breath, waiting for this day. Photo Credit: Porn for New Moms

So what can we do? I think we work a little harder at not worrying about “getting it all done” and instead accept that it’s never going to get done. Make your peace with it. The laundry is like bunnies in the spring time, the husbands are unlikely to ever take the initiative or keep running lists in their heads, and no one you are friends with actually cares what the inside of your closets look like. If they do, probably best to break up with them. I think we need to relish in the rare moments we have the house to ourselves, and like Lisa Miller writes in NY Magazine, just putter. Puttering in the sheer silence of your own home is a gift, a true gift. Isn’t it?

For more on how my husband insisted I take a year off to lounge around my house to recover from child birth, and other wild facts, be sure to “Like” the Wired Momma page on Facebook. I often post other great articles and links just there for when I don’t have time to blog.

Good enough is the new perfect. Moi loves Moi. Forget the lists.

The Epic Superhero Birthday

When you have a kid who goes to her sister’s t-ball games dressed like this:

It seems pretty obvious that she’s destined to have a Superhero Birthday Party – doesn’t it? I mean, if a kid is willing to remain in costume, despite the heat, she is committed to the cause. She is a true crime fighter. Most of her now four years have been spent in costume….it began with Pirates though she flirted a little bit with Tinkerbelle. Then it moved to Spiderman, sometimes she’d mix in a dragon costume, she danced with Wolverine….but she discovered her one true love in Batman. And so it remained for almost one-third of her life. Which is a big commitment before you turn four-years-old.

But look, someone has to keep the Joker at bay, right?

So when it came time to plan her birthday party, I knew that not only did we have to have a Superhero themed birthday party but it was time for her to meet Batman. That part was a secret though – and trust me – I worried how that surprise could go over to a room full of 3 and 4-year-olds.

I am a traditional birthday party thrower. I like to have them in my house, with party decorations, balloons, games, cake and goodie bags. I loved all of my birthday parties as a kid, I loved the home-made everything that came with them and it’s a family tradition that I haven’t tried to do differently with my own kids. But the trouble is – when you have the party in your house – you can’t really actually enjoy the party because you are so busy running the party. So this year – I also did things a little differently and I worked with Laura Betz from Thumbs Up Party Planning. I’ve interviewed Laura before on my blog, I’ve gone to a party Laura threw for a friend’s daughter at Glen Eco Park (that one was a Fairy themed one and it was fantastic), but I hadn’t yet used her myself. The time was right.

Adorable goodie bags

Laura’s company offers a wide variety of party themes (for boys and girls…any popular kid theme you can think of, she’s got nailed down to a perfect science) and she offers an exhaustive list of services to help make your party amazing. She can handle your party from the invites to the goodie bags and every detail in between.  Because I am a true-lover of Etsy and delight in the pins on Pinterest, I wanted to do the invites and decor myself but really wanted Laura and her team to show up and run the games so I could just sit back and watch and soak it all in. From the beginning, Laura put me at ease – told me when she’d arrive on the day of the party, confirmed the number of kids showing up and she even did the unthinkable….she found Batman himself to come to the party.

Because it was a girls superhero party, I knew I needed to find some pretty great decor and naturally I turned to Etsy for fabulous goodie bags and cupcake toppers.

The big day was Saturday December 1 and Laura and one of her employees arrived before show-time to set up. They

The delightful Laura, founder of Thumbs Up Party Planning, getting ready before show time

immediately set up an area of the room for all the superhero capes for the kids to pick out and dressed up the room with inflatable superheros. Laura is so welcoming and natural with the kids, she gathered them around and encouraged them to pick out their own superhero gear and choose what sort of design they wanted for face painting. Little did they all know Bruce Wayne was about to make an entrance.

Now, about that. Look, I didn’t put any thought into Batman’s arrival beyond worrying if he was going to terrify the toddlers – so imagine my delight (and the delight of every other mom in the room) when Batman was incredibly handsome to boot.

Oh – HELLO BATMAN. WELCOME!!!!!!

 

Right? Wowzers.

Batman’s surprise entrance to our little superhero party definitely surprised and delighted all the mothers children and my beloved birthday girl was just in awe of her favorite hero. Oddly, her 7-year-old sister was terrified of Batman and took a bit to warm up to him. Go figure. Batman then led the children in some hilarious superhero training, bringing them around small obstacle courses that Laura helped set up and encouraging them always to fight the bad guys and get good grades in school and listen to their mothers.

Excellent…..he’s handsome and dishes out strong valued advice….can he stay?

After learning about the qualities of a superhero and participating in the hilarious superhero training, Batman guided them through a rousing game of Villain Identification and of course ended with Muscle Mania, where they all took turns stuffing their costumes with balls to see how many muscles they could get. It was so funny to watch and the kids loved it. By then, anyone who initially was a little scared of Bruce Wayne had completely forgotten about it. Laura works with Heroes for Hire which was the company who delighted us with Batman….and also offers an array of characters to come in costume. They really were a fantastic company.

In the end, all the kids really were dazzled by the crime fighter and enjoyed playing all the games he and  Laura coordinated for the party. What I didn’t anticipate going into it was just how much having the real Batman would inspire so many of the kids in the room, especially the girls, many of whom aren’t necessarily drawn to superheroes. So many friends emailed later to let me know how much their girls were excited by superheroes and commented that now they know that superheroes are real, they better keep their eye out for more bad guys.
Laura helped me pull-off one of my favorite kids birthday parties yet and I got to sit back and just enjoy watching all the events unfold and really feel like I was part of the party instead of running around like a crazy person keeping everything moving and stressing about the next game. It made such a difference and is something I plan to do again in the future.
Bottom line – if you’re on the hunt for a character appearance (might I recommend a handsome Batman?), check out Heroes for Hire, or if you’re like moi and you love having parties at your house but actually want to have the chance to enjoy the party, I cannot recommend Thumbs Up Party Planning enough – not to mention how much I value supporting local mom-owned businesses! Thank you to Laura for such an amazing day! Be sure to “Like” moi on Facebook to keep up with the fun and the drooling over the super hot Batman.
Disclosure: Laura gifted her time to me. My opinions here are all my own.