Category Archives: Motherhood

Real Time Delivery

As you all know, KT has been anxiously awaiting the arrival of one of her BFF’s babies. Well, yesterday was the big day – INDUCTION DAY.

At first, KT and her friends were bored with said preggo friend. We got tired of waiting for baby to arrive, we were annoyed with waking up each morning and never finding an email to alert us that she was in labor. Then they scheduled her induction and said she’d likely not go into labor before scheduled date.

SNORE.

SO ANTI-CLIMATIC.

Where is the element of surprise?

Add to it that we were all so sure she was having a boy, mommy-to-be included.

Snore fest, right?

Well……not so fast, kittens. Me thinks my flair for dramatics got a little ahead of reality this time.

As it turns out, it’s the dawn of real time delivery.
No. No. Don’t turn your head in horror. We did NOT have a live webcast going in the delivery room (though it was thrown out there as a viable option when we were tired of wondering what the latest news is); we just were more addicted to our crackberries than normal.

Not only are we all obsessed with up-to-the-minute late breaking cable news, non stop, hungry for more more more, turns out we are addicted to up-to-the-minute late breaking delivery news.

What?

You’re 7cm dilated?

What, exactly, is your excuse for NOT emailing us and letting us know? AS IT IS HAPPENING?

Just picture the scene. The innocent mommy-to-be had her crack with her in the delivery room. The day started out calm with plenty of time to keep me updated.

In which, I would immediately turn around and update the mom’s other BFFs.

Yes – we were operating under the stealth guise of not “inundating” the induced preggo with emails – so instead we were drooling like starving wolves over our computer keyboards and cracks for any snippet of information we could get.

And it was great for a while. Emails would come in quite regularly from the mommy-to-be. Everything sounded good. Spirits were high. Everyone was healthy.

But then. Then.

RADIO DEAD SILENCE.

Nothing.

We heard NOTHING.

And well, mix in a lot of dramatics, a few preggo hormones with one BFF, some brain dead mommy comments with other BFFs, a day without too many work meetings (READ: free time to obsess and email – and let’s not forget a generous amount of time off for a nice lunch) and well…..you can only imagine the plausible scenarios that were being emailed back and forth.

Sure, many comments were witty. I mean, this is moi and mi amigos we are talking about. We are funny, not just pretty.

There were lots of insults being lobbed back and forth as we jockeyed for position over who would have the most accurate guess on birth time and gender.

It’s entirely possible that there might have even been a “Her husband has hands, why hasn’t he used them to email an update,” thrown in. With a few f bombs dropped, using her husband’s name in vain.

Oh, and maybe, JUST MAYBE, KT promised to swear off insulting Republicans for an entire week if the other preggo BFF’s husband kept the updates coming when she goes in labor.

You decide if I went that far.

But really kittens, really, real time delivery news is exciting, late breaking, at times painfully stressful and tedious, and really, a wild ride. Turns out our preggo friend wasn’t boring at all, in the end.

You get to strap yourself in and really feel like you are a part of your BFF’s big day. It leaves a little too much wiggle room for postulating and theorizing, but really, what fun is life without a few ridiculous scenarios tossed into the mix?

In the end, we finally learned the news. We had to log quite a few over-time hours into our cracks. My hands might have still been cracking while I slept last night, after the day I had. One BFF admitted she only left her crack’s side to pee (who are we kidding, we know she takes it into the bathroom).

I mean, how could we not know IMMEDIATLEY of the birth of baby?

And finally, finally, baby was born.

Healthy and strong.

And for those of you paying attention – NOT a boy.

We got the delivery time and gender wrong. We were so wrong.

But man was it fun along the way.

My Real Life

A conversation over dinner this past weekend is inspiring today’s entry. Now first, a disclaimer – in no way am I complaining about my own life today. In fact, I wouldn’t trade my life for anything and I wouldn’t trade being a parent for anything. My darling daughter fulfills me in ways I never imagined possible before children.

Now that being said, I’ve always been aware that someone else is living my “real life.” And most definitely, I felt that someone else was living my “real life” before I even had kids. I’m sure many of you can relate. But let me elaborate.

First of all, my “real life” actually takes place in San Francisco. In this life, I am not worried about the fact that housing prices are sky high there and jobs might be scarce. On top of it, I am the head of corporate communications for the Gap. This high powered job doesn’t impact my family life and my time with my daughter, of course. I also do a lot of pro bono work to fight the international trafficking of women and children. I probably jet around with President Clinton to fight AIDS as well.

In this life, I most definitely “weekend” in Tahoe through ski season – oh – and the inevitable traffic that exists for weekend trips like that between SF and Tahoe – never happens in my real life. Let’s be honest, we have a ski cabin in Tahoe. Naturally it has a view of the Lake and mountains.

Also, in my real life, on a moment’s notice I am off on fabulous vacations. Fiji? How about we stop over in Paris for a few days on the way?

Boating? Let’s head to Hawaii for a long weekend.

Work trip to Hong Kong? Let’s head over to Bali once the work portion is complete.

Isn’t my real life fabulous?

For those cynics out there, my husband and daughter are, indeed, in my real life and play important roles, that part hasn’t changed. As I said, I’m not complaining about them, I just have a “real life” out there somewhere that is fun to live in my head.

If you ask someone about their real life, you’ll get a really good window into their soul. You will really see what they might regret about decisions they’ve made, what kind of career path they would have followed, why they didn’t follow that path, and all the places they want to travel too. It’s particularly fun to ask your own mother or Aunts these questions because then you are most likely to learn of the career path they would have chosen had their been more options beyond nursing and teaching, for example.

KT would love to hear all about your real lives…..

Delivery & The Moon

As true fans of KT know, two of my BFFs are pregnant. Both were due earlier this week. Due dates came and went, and no baby. It was really getting boring for me. And so anti-climatic.

Then yesterday morning, KT hears on NPR that it was going to be a full moon. A blue moon at that.

Immediately – my spidey senses kicked in – one of the two BFFs were BOUND to go into labor with the full moon. Indeed – more women go into labor with the full moon, including myself, even at 4 weeks early.

C’est vrai.

Even upon my arrival at the hospital, one delivery nurse commented on how I snagged the last delivery room and they were jam packed due to the full moon.

So yesterday was a nail biter of a day. Would one of them go into labor? Which one?

Well kittens. It happened. One BFF welcomed a sweet baby girl to the world this morning. She went into labor last night.

One down, one more to go.

Many of you are probably doubters. The moon can cause women to go into labor? Have I joined a pagan group?

I genuinely believe that women’s bodies are in sync with nature. Not to mention with each other. Weren’t you always on the same menstrual cycle as your roommates in college and beyond?

And so, KT’s sister provided some internet links on this subject matter. She first provided this link that discusses how not only do hospitals staff up more in anticipation of full moons but that the gravitational pull of the moon can cause women’s waters to break, just as it affects water and the ocean:

http://ezinearticles.com/?The-Moons-Effect-on-Natural-Childbirth&id=70253

Even if you aren’t a believer, surely you are intrigued.  I urge you to spend some time asking the women around you if there was a full moon the night they went into labor? You might be surprised with what you learn.

Now – other women, upon KT’s further prodding, have said that either they or someone they know, have gone into labor as a result of barometric pressure. That is – as the pressure drops and a big storm is pending, the hospital rooms filled up – thereby contradicting the moon theory.

Scroll down to the pregnancy section here:

http://www.pburch.net/lunarcal.html

Again, very intriguing.

Believe what you want to believe kittens. But KT believes that there is something to this mother nature and women’s bodies, business, something very real and provocative.

Regardless of what you believe, however, one of my oldest, dearest, and best friends just had her first baby. If that’s not a reason to celebrate and be filled with joy, I just don’t know what is!

Be Grateful for Ginsburg

First, let me say that I have been very remiss in blogging on the spate of decisions the Supreme Court has made, of late. In particular, the wholly disappointing and neanderthal decision to uphold the federal ban on partial birth abortion.

I will try to make good on that today by calling attention to Ruth Bader Ginsburg. As we all well know, she is the only female Supreme Court Justice on the Bench right now. Which in and of itself speaks loud and clear about how important the Bush Administration views women as representatives of the people.

That being said, Ginsburg has done something remarkable and very unusual this Spring. She has spoken out in dissent of two decisions the Court has made. Most recently, a few days ago, she spoke out against the Court’s decision to rule that workers may not sue their employers over unequal pay caused by discrimination.

More specifically, the case was brought forth by a woman alleging that she had been unfairly underpaid over the course of the almost 20 years she worked for Goodyear because she is a woman.

Ginsburg read a dissent from the bench for the second time in six weeks because of the consistent decisions by the Court that set back the rights of women in this country.

Ginsburg said: “In our view, the court does not comprehend, or is indifferent to, the insidious way in which women can be victims of pay discrimination.”

According to the same article from yesterday’s Washington Post:

 “Last month, Ginsburg rebuked the same five-justice majority for upholding the federal Partial Birth Abortion Ban Act and for language in the opinion that she said reflected “ancient notions about women’s place in the family and under the Constitution — ideas that have long since been discredited.”

I would urge you to read the article in it’s entirety here:

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2007/05/29/AR2007052900740.html

I don’t really have anything witty or smart ass to say about any of this. I remain disgusted by the Bush Administration and the ways that this President has managed to infiltrate every aspect of the lives of all of us – and not once for the good. He has caused countless setbacks. I truly cannot tolerate or comprehend how anyone in their right mind can support him or any decision he has made for our country. In particular, women. All you need to do is spend a few minutes paying attention to just these two decisions made by the extremely conservative majority of our Supreme Court.

The time for a new President and Administration really can’t come soon enough. Sadly, I just don’t know how many years it will take to undo the colossal mess this current Administration has created. After-all, just these two decisions alone affect not only every single woman you know, including yourself, but they will impact our daughters until enough of the current Justices move off the court and some wrongs can be righted.